How You Doin’ Blondie?

Same Shit Different Day
May 29, 2008, 7:49 pm
Filed under: Humor, Life, love, Men, relationships, sex | Tags: , , , , ,

So S. has made his official return to relevancy in my life.

We ran into each other this morning, I was walking up to the train station to head into the city for the day, and he was driving to work. He stopped and asked me if I wanted a lift and of course I accepted. So the whole ride over we talked about the MOST boring shit in the world (of course) but the whole time I’m thinking “Ask him out, no wait for him to ask you out, drop him some hints, No just ask him out, ASK HIM OUT ASK HIM OUT ASK HIM OUT.” So I screwed up all my courage and said, “So, I see you got a new truck, what happened to the white Hummer?”

Yeah, balls of steel. That’s me.

So anyway, we finally pull up to the front of the station, and I turn to him and say, “Thanks for the lift,” but really all I wanted to do was kiss him. He smelled SO good, and his voice, oh that VOICE. I haven’t spoken to him in so long, anytime we see each other we just wave – so I’d forgotten how yummy that voice is…

I want him so bad it hurts. So what do I do?

On the one hand, we have the fact that he and I have been out together. Once. In October. 2007. And then – nothing. I got like 2 text messages, and then – nothing. He’s had all this time to make a move, and he hasn’t. So he’s obviously not that interested.

Which, to be totally honest, really does upset me. He was so much fun to hang out with, such a down to Earth guy. If only I knew what the fuck I did to turn him off. Sigh. I am NOT a happy camper.

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If you had a mutual connection with this guy then you would have gotten more than a couple of texts in 7 months. What would you tell one of your friends that came to you with this situation? You would tell her – he isn’t that into you. Move on. You want him bad. He doesn’t reciprocate. That sucks. But sitting around wondering why and wishing it wasn’t so isn’t gonna make him call.

Move on. All you can do. My two cents.

Comment by finkenwalde

See that’s the problem with knowing how men think – when I get rejected, I can’t bullshit myself. I just have to deal with the fact that the guy who lives two doors down from me went out on a date with me, felt up my tits, found the whole experience lacking, and has moved on.

I can see the appeal of lying to yourself.

Comment by How You Doin Blondie

At least you can take solace in self-awareness. Lonely comfort, but you still have your integrity.

Comment by finkenwalde

Uh – you went out only once and you let him do that?? Maybe that’s all he wanted to do.

Is he a “logical” type guy? If so, he may not know what to do next – as in freeze up… I am ultra logical and I freeze. I have missed out on so much because I used to not know how to keep asking out a beautiful woman Don’t get me wrong, I had girlfriends, but freeze on asking out drop dead gorgeous ones…

Comment by Tim

Think of it this way. You can be sexy as hell. Feeling up your tits (as you put it) may turn on most men. No one bats a 1000 though. I agree with finkenwalde. Move on. You’re not bullshiting yourself. You’re just being realistic.

Did you at least shake your booty as you stepped out of the car?

Comment by jmjorat

I appreciate the encouragement Fink. It’s hard out there for a girl that plays the boys’ games 😉

Comment by How You Doin Blondie

And yes, Tim, we went out only once and not only did I let him feel up my tits, I allowed him to take off my shirt and my bra. He probably would’ve solidly tagged third base except I don’t hold my liquor well and nearly passed out. Very classy move. And yes, as a matter of fact, he does strike me as a “logical” guy…he’s quiet, and has a certain fondness for “dark” things (ie: gothic architecture, heavy metal, etc.). He’s the IT director of a major company, which leads me to believe he was, at least at one point, a major numbers nerd. As a matter of fact, after he’d had a few too many to drink, he admitted to me that he couldn’t believe I was actually sitting on his couch, in his house, after going out on a date with him…which made me think that maybe, just maybe, he WAS unsure what to do next…BUT, the guy can’t be totally clueless, he WAS married at one point…and he had 7 months to make a move – but all I’ve managed to get out of him is friendly neighborly waves…and a lot of not-so-neighborly but delicious once-overs…a part of me SO hoped he was just intimidated, but 7 months?

Comment by How You Doin Blondie

Ah, Jmjorat – it’s scary how correct your guess was. I sure as hell did shake my ass, not anything overt, but enough to make him want it 😉

Comment by How You Doin Blondie

His personality explaines it. I get it fully now.

Comment by Tim

Can you explain it to me?

Comment by How You Doin Blondie

THAT is tough. I will NEVER explain it good typing it. I never met him, but logical guys are somewhat reserved and don’t have the social skills or be able to see the social queues.

I am a little that way, but not that bad. I am opening up more and more… Hey I just bought a Harley!! 🙂

Comment by Tim

Another word comes to mind, “Losers”!

Comment by palegrayforguilt

Yea, he’s missing out. Too bad!

Comment by Tim

No comment.

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